You are reading this because you asked me a personal question regarding my identification and self-identification under one of the categories below. This is my polite way of saying I will generously call you whatever you want; but I refuse to tell you what to call me.
- Off-topic: you are not professionally required to know my details to perform your duty.
- Bias: not knowing my background, it is impossible for you to practice many kinds of discrimination. This also prevents me from pretending that criticism aimed at me is due to prejudice.
- False politeness: you need not be cautious about my feelings. Rudeness is a very efficient way to communicate your dissatisfaction. It also allows you to let off steam, rather than building up anger and one day exploding in a fit of rage.1
I owe you nothing. However, I will generously not insist on the equal right to call you whatever I want. Instead, I will use your preferred pronoun, salutation, etc. because I have better things to do than argue with you.
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Rudeness isn’t a crime; harassment is. If you don’t know the difference, you need to stop taking advice from web pages and seek professional advice from a lawyer and therapist. ↩